For this assignment, I picked the action of divorce. For this action, I feel that it should definitely be wrong. To start with, marriage is already a huge decision in which people should definitely take time to think about it. Both the man and the woman should be certain of what he or she is getting into, and if one rashly decides to marry another person, he/she must stick to his decision. Other than the fact that you swore to live with this person through hardships, you also have an obligation to your children, which I feel is unachievable when the single most basic unit of the society is broken. For this matter alone, I feel that divorce is a single harsh decision that should not be considered for the child’s sake. Most of my basis from this claim comes from my own experiences and from the experiences of my friends, therefore I can say that much of my decision is largely influenced by my emotions.
Despite my innate hatred for this action, I can say that sadly, there are times wherein a divorce would not be considered bad or sinful. These cases happen when couples never were in love in the first place. Scenarios of this type can be seen in many countries where arranged marriage still plays a large part of their culture. In these cases, it is difficult to say that these marriages should stay together when there never really was an attachment between the couple stronger than their parent’s. In situations like these: one would be aware of the sinful action, consented to the act as well, but never really had the freedom to choose.
So far, based on what I’ve written, I feel that I am an evaluativist for this case. Despite the fact that I do not wish for married couples to ever stop loving each other, I can’t say that it is fair for those that have been forced into the act.
John Doe and his wife have been constantly fighting for the past few months, and on christmas day, John’s wife stormed out of his apartment. The next day, John saw a note and divorce forms by the door. John then goes to ask me what he should do. His wife is 6 months pregnant and there is still ample time to have a divorce so that it doesn’t affect the child as much.
Firstly, what happened John? What went wrong? You know it could all be because of the emotional stress your wife is going through carrying the baby. Think carefully about what you’re planning to do. Divorcing your wife will do no one in your family well. I hate to sound like your father, but if you think about it, you’ll be in ruins because I am sure you still love her. I also think that your wife will be in the same state because never have I seen a couple so happy together. I feel that you should try to work it out. Listen to her more and be more understanding. You shouldn’t make decisions rashly without thinking. You’ve got to recheck your motives and try to work things out. My relationship with Jane is not perfect as well, but whenever these kind of thought come to mind, I always try to recheck the roots of these ideas and who I would be affecting if I did push through with it. As for whether or not it is wrong, I too am unsure about that, but whenever I am uncertain, I always immediately think its wrong because, most of the time, it is.